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Nunchi: better than empathy when tuning in to others

September 13th, 2021 Posted by News 0 thoughts on “Nunchi: better than empathy when tuning in to others”
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Euny Hong in her book ‘Nunchi, the Korean secret of happiness and success’ define Nunchi as the subtle art of gauging other people’s thoughts and feelings to build harmony, trust, and connection.

Nunchi is a part of daily life in Korea, because Korean culture is what is known as high context, which is to say that a great deal of communication is based not on words, but on the understanding of multiple  factors: body language, facial expressions, tradition, who else is present, and even silence. 

A skilled nunchi practitioner understands they are seeking answers to these two questions: ‘What is the emotional energy of this room?’ and ‘What kind of emotional energy can I emit in order to flow with that?’

When you enter a room, having good nunchi means observing before you begin to speak or interact. You should think of a room as a single living, breathing organism.

Have you ever been in a room when someone important walks in? Even if your back is to the door, and you can’t see who it is, you know from the reactions of everyone around you that something has changed. That is a simple example of nunchi in action.

Having great nunchi means continuously recalibrating your assumptions based on any new word, gesture, or facial expression, so that you are always present and aware. the more important a situation is, the greater the likelihood that the most crucial information is not expressed out loud, or not expressed truthfully.

At the same time, you should you care about what vibes you are transmitting. Why? It is best expressed in the saying: ‘I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.’

A well-honed and quick nunchi can help you choose the right partner in life or business, it can help you shine at work, it can protect you against those who mean you harm, and it can even reduce social anxiety.

Conversely, a lack of nunchi can make people dislike you in a way that is as mysterious to them as it is to you.

An intrinsic part of nunchi is the dimension of change: understand that everything is in flux. As the Greek philosopher Heraclitus wisely wrote in the sixth century BC, ‘You can’t step into the same river twice.’ Adapting that principle to nunchi: the room you walked into ten minutes ago is not the same room as it is now.

You are provided of a good Nunchi if:

You feel awkward saying something without knowing the other person’s mood/mental state

Even if someone is saying something indirectly, you still comprehend the subtext.

You are good at quickly discerning the other person’s mood and inner state.

You don’t make other people uncomfortable.

At a social gathering, you are able to distinguish easily between when it’s time to leave and when it’s not time to leave.

Everyone is born with the potential for nunchi, but in order to draw it out, you have to challenge some biases of Western culture are these:

Empathy is valued over understanding. Activation is valued over stillness and quiet. Extroversion is valued over introversion. Jagged edges are valued over roundness. Individualism is valued over collectivism.

Let’s declare now the eight rules of nunchi:

  1. First, empty your mind. Step back, breathe, and remember that prejudice prevents you from learning anything about other people.
  2. Be aware of the Nunchi Observer Effect. When you enter a room, you change the room. Understand your influence. Your presence is already changing the environment without you saying a word. 
  3. If you just arrived in the room, remember that everyone else has been there longer than you. Watch them to gain information. 
  4. Never pass up a good opportunity to shut up. If you wait long enough, most of your questions will be answered without you having to say a word. 
  5. Manners exist for a reason. Don’t dismiss them as superficial; they’re used to make people feel comfortable.
  1. Read between the lines. People don’t always say what they are thinking and that’s their prerogative. Pay attention to context and to what they are not saying.
  2. If you cause harm unintentionally, it’s sometimes as bad as if you’d caused it intentionally. Intent is not impact, as the saying goes. 
  3. Be nimble, be quick. Gather data quickly, process quickly, adapt quickly. Remember: survival of the fittest doesn’t mean survival of the strongest. It means survival of the most adaptable.

Exercising nunchi can dissipate some of the anxiety you have about social interactions. If you have quick nunchi, you can create a harmonious environment, which makes people want to be around you. You can be a better parent, partner, son or daughter, colleague, boss, and friend. Nunchi, according to Euny, is the currency of life.

Adapted from Euny Hong, Nunchi, the Korean secret of happiness and success, Penguin Books, 2019

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Beware of the responsibility bias!

September 9th, 2021 Posted by News 0 thoughts on “Beware of the responsibility bias!”
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In his book ‘Give and Take’, Adam Grant explains how the responsibility bias works. Let’s start from our private life with a simple question: ‘Of the total effort that goes into the relationship, from making dinner and planning dates to taking out the garbage and resolving conflicts, what percentage of the work do you handle?’


How a sociogram can help you to understand your human connections

June 9th, 2021 Posted by News 0 thoughts on “How a sociogram can help you to understand your human connections”
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A way to find out how you perceive the energy of your colleagues in the working group is to make a simple sociogram.


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The Lifeline Exercise: an exercise to think about yourself

June 3rd, 2021 Posted by News 0 thoughts on “The Lifeline Exercise: an exercise to think about yourself”
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This exercise is designed to help you reflect on your life and identify stories that shaped who you are today, the values you have as a person and your motivations in learning and leading.



Are you in control of your life?

May 26th, 2021 Posted by News 0 thoughts on “Are you in control of your life?”
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Every one of us has a “perceptual set”, a way of interpreting and finding out causes and reasons for everything that happens in life.


You can make an easy exercise to find out what focus you mostly use. Start with answering the following question in an honest way!


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What hampers performance management dialogues?

May 12th, 2021 Posted by News 0 thoughts on “What hampers performance management dialogues?”
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Performance development dialogues are not easy to conduct.


Many managers find handling performance problems an unpleasant part of their leadership responsibility. Being aware of the factors that keep performance discussions from being productive, will help you avoid pitfalls.


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Things successful people do differently

May 5th, 2021 Posted by News 0 thoughts on “Things successful people do differently”
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Successful people reach their goals not simply because of who they are but because of what they do.


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How you can improve your strategic thinking

April 21st, 2021 Posted by News 0 thoughts on “How you can improve your strategic thinking”
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What is strategic thinking?


  • Think ahead, identify trends and devise strategies to take advantage of opportunities.
  • Understand the range of issues and variables that impact company’s success and applies these to decision making.
  • Recognize vulnerabilities and competitor threats.
  • See farther into the future.
  • Think globally.


To improve in strategic thinking, ask yourself:


  • What do we do best?
  • What could we improve?
  • How can we turn our strengths into opportunities?
  • What obstacles do we face?
  • How can I challenge current assumptions about what we do?
  • Who will be our competitors five to ten years from now?
  • How will people use our products/services in the next ten years?
  • How will new technologies affect our markets?
  • What discoveries or trends in other fields will be useful to our business?
  • How can political and economic changes affect our business?
  • When did I last take steps to turn strategic vision into reality?
  • With whom should we partner to increase our competitive advantage?


Train your strategic thinking


  • Ask your manager for feedback on your understanding of business trends and global implications
  • Work to articulate the business issues of your team. Ask others to challenge your assumptions and projections.
  • Research a key competitor, analyze their products, presente recommendations for dealing with them at a staff meeting.
  • Collect data on your customers and what their needs and requirements are. Analyze what competitors are doing in respond to customer needs.
  • Discover how different units are working and how each might benefit from solutions and technologies that overlap.
  • Develop a forecast for the business future of your team or unit. Ask for feedback.
  • Develop a strategic plan to take advantage of the global business implications of your products/services. 
  • Identify a business problem or deficiency in your unit and write a plan to solve it. 
  • Think four years ahead and identify what different industries will have moved into your markets.
  • Get involved in a cross functional group and look at the business from different points of view.
  • Challenge your strategic thinking. Ask yourself if you are maintaining a balance between futuristic thinking and present need for accomplishments.



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Know yourself through three powerful exercises

April 14th, 2021 Posted by News 0 thoughts on “Know yourself through three powerful exercises”
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The intention with these exercises is to be aware of the important aspects in life that might influence your future choices and have an impact on your leadership attitude.


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What defines a High Performing Organisation

March 31st, 2021 Posted by News 0 thoughts on “What defines a High Performing Organisation”
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High Performing Organisations produce high level results and maintain high levels of human satisfaction and commitment.


Eunice Parisi-Carew, Don Carew, Fred Finch, and Jesse Stoner report that 7 elements are evident in these organizations.  (more…)

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